Okay. Here's my plan.
With anon messages, unless the answer is long enough to need its own post, I’m going to do a message round-up posts separated by general questions about feminism and reactions/questions about specific posts or episodes - the messages will be screencapped and the posts will be under a read more, to save on space. I think this will make some sense and help me get to all my questions. Give me...
Anonymous asked: ALL HAIL FEMINIST GLEE!
Anonymous asked: So what did you think about the "I Kissed A Girl" episode? I personally think the sexist themes were all over the place. Making Finn like some kind of hero to Santana, Puck sort of saving Quinn... Why can't the glee girls grow spines or something?
Anonymous asked: how do you figure out if you are gay? i find myself attracted to both men and women i just don't know how to be sure. do you have any advice on this ??
Anonymous asked: sorry, but i asked a question i was just wondering if you answer them all
Anonymous asked: I have to ask, is it safe to say that the glee tag on your blog will include all of your original glee posts from here in? Because you tend to have a lot of asks cluttering the place and I mean, they're nice and all, I just think the ideas you express are best expressed in your original posts, rather than the follow up discussions/clarifications.
Anonymous asked: did you make a blog just to bash on glee? if you hate the show just don't watch it?
graceebooks asked: Nah, that's my point - I got a ton out of the post. It was articulate and well-put and full of things that desperately need to be heard. It was just frustrating and upsetting to see that side by side with the suggestion that Finn deserved to get hit twenty times in the face with a chair.
graceebooks asked: Your post deconstructing Santana's storyline in this egregious episode was incredibly legitimate until you justified physical violence. What a heartbreaker.
quoth-the-ravenclaw asked: Thank you for putting into words all the things that made me uncomfortable about this episode that I just couldn't articulate.
I Kissed A Girl, Part I: Santana.
So, can we all just settle down and agree that women fuck everything up, always, and they can’t make decisions or fight their own battles without the help of a man? I mean, really. It’s a universal truth, right? …no? Not so much? That’s utter bullshit? Most rational human beings believe that women are as capable as men, and not subservient, helpless children? Funny, because...
Anonymous asked: Thank you for being a friend. Watched all the show and went back again. Your heart is true, you're a gal and an awesome blog. I'm ashamed to say, I keep on watching this shit anyway. My hat is off, won't you stand up and take a bow?
sempredomanda-deactivated201206 asked: Please tell me you are writing about this episode. It was Fucking Ridiculous.!!!
eldradmustlive asked: Oh I hope you can compose yourself... because I can't and I'd really like someone coherent/amazing to get into writing quite how much this episode... was bad. Sorry, I can't even describe it :\
knotateenwolfblog asked: This episode is horrible. Girls just want to have fun, lesbians/bisexuals are just bar gay, girls use sex to manipulate guys... and we're only halfway through
Anonymous asked: It's so nice to see someone who's proud of being a feminist. I'm a feminist myself, but even though I live in France where we, women, have less to complain about regarding our freedoms/rights than in other countries, I'm frustrated because I've noticed that whenever I mention I'm a feminist, people stare at me, almost disgusted, as if it was some kind of...
loveisforthebourgeoisie-deactiv asked: On the topic of "guy and girl things", it should be noted that pink was considered a masculine colour until the 20th century, and women didn't shave their armpits in Western countries until the 20th century.
Anonymous asked: I think Santana is WAY more of a hypocrite than Finn. All of her intentions are bad, that aren't revolved around her ~true love~. I do agree that her storyline is a joke. I think that her sexuality is a joke, and as a lesbian, I am offended. I think that Finn did her crazy ass a favor.
I do understand what you are saying, but I just can’t bring myself to agree, and here’s why: The only reason that “guy things” and “girl things” exist is because we think we need to categorize every damn thing in the entire world. Obviously there are differences between biological males and females, but everything else - every rule, every categorization -...
I just want you all to know that as of this...
ohwhatprovidence: Reblogging this from my personal, because I feel like if I’m going to share it anywhere else, it would be on my feminist tumblr! We had elections this evening, and I turned down a nomination for treasurer because my heart is in making other people realize that they are feminists even if they don’t know it yet! Not that any of you attend KU, but I am going to...
lacomandante-deactivated2012101 asked: First of I just want to say, your blog is awesome! I love all the hate that the anons send to you! It's like seriously, what makes em think you'll get hurt! anyways onto my question, I'm looking for more blogs that focus on what you do in this blog, as well as more feminist blogs. Do you recommend any?
Anonymous asked: First off, I really love your blog, and I'm glad I found it! Second, I'd really love to see your thoughts on Quinn and Puck, if you ever want to write about it. Personally, I feel that he raped her (tried to get her more drunk when she protested, manipulated her using her insecurities, and we now know, LIED about having protection, which is certainly rape by fraud). It makes me so...
Anonymous asked: I wish there was a way to set this blog as the homepage on all the writers' computers.
Anonymous asked: Is this what happens when women leave the kitchen?
gallium-knight asked: When I was in high school all the girls tried to make me "more gay" because they wanted someone like Kurt. My complaint against Glee isn't that it fails to teach tolerance; it manages that barely, clumsily, and with some heavy handed biases, but manages the overall theme nonetheless. However, Glee doesn't seem to clarify what exactly it takes to *be* accepting and it shows. I...
Anonymous asked: i'm so done with that stupid idea that all the feminists are man haters :|
ladykittyfantastico asked: You didn't answer my previous ask, but that previous anon is exactly what I was talking about. This messed up view of what feminism is that causes people to be against it, when all feminism really is supporting equality of the sexes. I'm a feminist, but I don't hate men, and I don't want them to answer to women or be their slaves or anything. I want men and women to have equal...
Anonymous asked: Feminism is total bullshit. And before you go off on a tangent about equality and rights and blah blah there are just as many injustices in society for men as there are for women. And the fact you've decided to have a little rant about the depiction of lesbians in Glee shows just how fucked up your moral compass is. It's a crappy show for teens. Not only does it extend the prejudices...
So a guy walks into a bar...
cursethecosmos: And he sees this girl who catches his eye. He walks up to her, flirts and asks if he could buy her a drink. She declines. It seems she wants to hang out with her friends and doesn’t want to be bothered. So the man calmly and with a non sarcastic tone says: “Okay. Well, you have a good evening then”. He walks away and continues to enjoy his evening because life moves on and she...
eccentricladylover asked: Where do you go to school? I want to become as eloquent as you are!
Anonymous asked: You are perfect. Glee just sends wrong messages. Not only about gay women but women in general. When Artie confronted coach about being a virgin I decided I had enough. So thank you for doing this blog.
Anonymous asked: FYI, that tag (#the whole 'at least you don't live in iraq' argument is so tired and offensive) on your last post is something that YOU made up in your head. The anon didn't say anything at all about Iraq. You don't like people assuming things about women but there you are assuming she is talking about a certain country.
gillangasm asked: Do you mind sharing your personal? :)
Anonymous asked: you seem to get a lot of anon hate, so I'm throwing out some anon love. thank you for existing. I wasn't able to really articulate why Glee sometimes makes me feel weird (although I hate to admit I have continued watching it) but your posts are spot on. thank you thank you thank you
diaryreadingcat asked: Oh. My. God. Do you accept marriage proposals? Because I believe I'm in love with you. *also studying Gender Studies*
Anonymous asked: "Please don’t suggest that Glee has any thought put into it. The actors themselves have said that they write this fucking show as they’re filming it. There is no thought put into it. There is no care put into it. None." --do you have links to that? not that I don't believe you, I just want to see this. that sounds like a horrible way to make a show.
I think you are tearing down Glee coz you need to throw your hate somewhere I am deconstructing Glee because I have a right and an obligation to pay attention to the ideas and messages that are shaping our society and challenge those that are damaging and just pain wrong. I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life or whatever but - you only get one life to live, that’s ONE CHANCE....
Why I am a feminist.
Why am I so obsessed with ‘women equality’? Because there are still people (WOMEN, even, like yourself) who believe that we already have it. Where do you live? Do you have complete control legal control over what happens to your body, and access to affordable reproductive healthcare? If you are raped or sexually assaulted, are you guaranteed the help of a system that won’t...
Anonymous asked: No matter how I feel about internet trolls tearing other people/things down I do appriciate that ur at least not just spamming BS underneath youtube videos :P But don't u think that they are deliberately treating Brittana's storyline differently? I mean in an ideal world everyone would be OK with having a gay child but the truth is that not every1 is like that And as a big fan of Glee,...
Anonymous asked: The only problem I had with your post about glee not being a progressive show was that it was your opinion. That's the way you perceive the show and yet you spoke like it was a fact and everyone should agree with you, but it's not. I respect your opinion, but it honestly really annoyed me that you stated it the way you did.
Anonymous asked: The good thing is that the majority of the fandom actually doesn't condone what Finn did, at least from what I've seen on Tumblr. But there are a few who claim that what Finn did was justified because Santana was bullying him. -_- Sure, she was horrible to him as well but in no way did she deserve getting outed in such a public place
Anonymous asked: The writers make their story lines about what fans want to see, not to teach them how to offend a gay person. Ryan Murphy himself is gay, and takes this very seriously. He is, however, working with characters. Characters who, although they may be lesbian like you, are nothing like you! Was Finn wrong? Yes. Did Santana deserve it? Idk if anyone does. All I know is that Glee is not actively tearing...
Anonymous asked: I know this is kinda a weird question, but in season one, Quinn says she had sex with Puck because he got her drunk. And, if she was intoxicated, do you think that could be considered rape?
Anonymous asked: Hey, I'm having a party tomorrow and the butler I hired was injured and cannot make it. Mind making us some sandwiches?
rattyhugs asked: This is a good blog, but one note about your post on Glee not really being a progressive show is that it fails to address the cissexism and transmisogyny that has been in Glee several times before, and also your post seems to equate "woman" with "vagina" and "man" with "penis". Just a small annoyance I had - otherwise you're doing great.
Anonymous asked: "Why is Finn Hudson still alive and watching this performance like he’s not a horrible person?" I have no idea what you mean by this. Finn is a horrible person and should die for accidentally outing Santana? What? Expound, if you will.
Anonymous asked: You are my hero! As a gay woman, I find glee appalling and I find the amount of gay female friends I have who love "klaine" to be even more appalling. thank you for speaking up!
bluemd asked: I re-blogged what you had to say because I agree with you - so much! I'm glad someone is saying it in such an intelligent and well thought out manner. I'm sure you'll have those that don't agree with you, but you're speaking a clear truth. The show has a huge following, a lot of them impressionable kids, and this is just showing them all the wrong things. Sometimes I...
I have 19 messages in my ask box right now…
I am home for the holidays and trying to enjoy some family time, plus I don’t want to flood your dash with answers, so please be patient with me! I’m not ignoring anyone. :)
yodaismyguidedog asked: I think you are my new favourite blog, I agree completely with what you have said (although I still can't stop watching Glee XD). Please please carry on posting :)